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17 Traits to Avoid in a Partner

As one gets older the pressure to become involved with a member of the opposite sex does seem to wane somewhat.

Except of course for those needy friends of ours who may need a companion for Washing, Ironing, Farging, Etc. OR those who need a meal ticket.

Looking at younger people these days I do despair somewhat as their dating rituals are more based on online background checks, social media snooping and ratings from friends – all THAT before the first date nogal!

In my day we had large circles of friends that we used to see face to face, our parents would see who was passing through the family home and, more often than not, they would sniff out the inappropriate matches.

On top of that we would spend ages on the phone and doing stuff outdoors whilst deciding on whom to ‘go steady’ with.

Despite all that experience those new to the game (and those new AGAIN to the game) still make mistakes when choosing someone to ‘go steady’ with.

In my new single life I have just two rules: (1) No Infidelity and (2) Brutal Honesty.

Along the way these questions/observations are the ones that guide me about a potential partner:

  1. Rude to people.
  2. Trash talks ex or close friends.
  3. Dislikes me hanging out with family and friends.
  4. Considers feedback from anyone to be a criticism.
  5. More than anxious to advance any relationship.
  6. Insults me directly or through little digs or sarcasm.
  7. Never takes responsibility for something that goes wrong caused by her.
  8. Does apologize BUT always with a rider; “I’m sorry, but…”.
  9. Attacks me when feeling down or insecure.
  10. Never cheers for my wins.
  11. Loves being a drama queen.
  12. Takes, takes, takes but never gives.
  13. Has a lot of friends of the opposite sex waiting but doesn’t have any friends of her own sex.
  14. Needs validation from the opposite sex but doesn’t like the opposite sex.
  15. Sincerely believes that her (or his) gender is superior over the opposite sex.
  16. Ask yourself if your values and long terms goals match those of your partner.
  17. Does she treat parents and siblings with respect.

If your potential partner does any of the above then you need to consider long and hard just what kind of relationship you will be happy to pursue.

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Alan Straton

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Passionate about Port Elizabeth and definitely NOT packing for Perth. Alan's ethos is epitomised in the words of Nelson Mandela; "I have fought against white domination and I have fought against black domination. I have cherished the idea of a democratic and free society. If need be, it is an ideal for which I am prepared to die." See more articles by Alan.